1)Negotiation in this book is referred to as a Mixture of
Knowledge, Skill, Experience and intuition.
Key point I like in this book for Preparing tactics and strategies such
as having right attitude and Mindset, being ready walk away from the poor
deals. Through this book I came to know about “Good
Negotiators are made rather than born”
1a) Negotiation
need to understand and that it is not
necessary that only one party wins , if they will only take the trouble to find
out what the other party really wants
and then go about designing a package that gives it to them, they can
gain what they themselves want from the
process. It is the careful peeling away of the unwanted elements that leads to
successful negotiations.b
1b) Negotiations
are a process, not an event that can be learnt. All the steps that lead to
mutually satisfying outcomes are described here like creating the climate,
identifying interests, and selecting the best alternative to negotiated
agreement outcomes that you will go through in any negotiations
2)Negotiation is a social process. It is because people must
interact with each others to achieve their desired outcomes. This interaction
may occur face to face, telephonically, by mail or increasingly electronically
via; e-mail, instant messaging, or video conferencing. We interact with each
others because we are interdependent- we have something they need or they have
something we need. So, negotiation is the process by which interdependent
people with conflicting interest determine how they are going to allocate
resources or work together in the future.
3)Some possible Tactics of Negotiation
While
playing the game of negotiation, use these whenever appropriate:
·
Always appear reluctant
Show you are
interested in acting in good faith but make them realize you have other options
too if not this.
·
Never, Never, Never accept the first offer
No matter how good
the first offer sounds, never except it, act as you don’t like it. It is needed
even you know you are offered what you want.
·
Neutralize the other side perceived power
The other side will
try to make you feel inferior but by recognizing this situation in advance, you
can resist much of the power and can
focus on your own agenda and strategy.
·
Schedule session on your own turf
You are always better
off with the home field advantage in the early sessions.
·
Use confusion to your advantage
When people are
unsettled, they are more easily influenced and persuaded than when they are
sure of themselves and the situation.
·
Don’t over react when the other party says no
Hearing no can be
scary but understand no does not mean never. Situation can be changed and
shifted as well.
Challenges of Negotiation
·
Communication
·
Decision Making
·
Power and influence
·
Ethics
·
Multiparty Negotiation
·
Individual Differences
·
International Negotiation
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Difficult Negotiation
·
Third- Party negotiation
4) Know your team
roles..while negotiating as a team
If you are negotiating in a team you must be clear on which
role you are playing. The role may be leader, summarizer, and observer. Leader
should conduct the negotiation, it is not necessary that the leader should be
most senior person. Summarizer need to summarize periodically, should ask
questions to clarify missed points but should not take over the leadership.
Observer should watch, listen and record, can provide the objective view but
speaks only at breaks.
·
”If”is the biggest word in negotiating
You should use ”if” as the first word in every proposal you
make. It is necessary to say if you do this and this then I will do that
because you are attaching condition to every proposal. But you must be careful
in using this word because you attach condition to every proposal which may
sometimes motivate your counterparty to accept best deal and agree in
isolation, you should use this word so that each and every package is accepted.
·
Try not to say “take it“ or “leave it”
You can say that’s the best I can do and this may be a good
idea if the other party has no option but to take it. You should give them
options, use your influencing skills and your ability to persuade and people
will return to negotiate with you in future.
·
Be aware of body language
We all know that body speaks more than words. It is a
crucial and most important aspect of communication from beginning to closing a
deal. While moving every part of your body you must first consider about your
counterpoint viewpoint. One research has shown that 10 percent of communication
depends on the words you use, 30 percent of communication depends on how you
say them and 60 percent of communication depends on your body language.
5)Negotiation
is a protocol of exchange and the mood in which the sides arrive at negotiation
greatly influences the outcome. A well conducted negotiation may allow both
sides to win by creating synergy. The golden rule of negotiation is ask and you
shall receive. If you fail to make the request without having given up a thing,
the other side is always ahead.
6)
Personal issues that threaten win- win negotiation
·
Innocent misunderstanding: Clarify the reasons for your
actions and positions, never take for granted that the other side knows what
you believe or why you are doing something.
·
Perceived dishonesty: Half truths, unspoken truths
and deception can be just as destructive as outright lies. Have the courage to
be honest.
·
Negligence and irresponsibility: If you say you will do
something, do it! Respect confidence and honor commitments. Treat the other
side with the same respect you expect.
7) Among the various
mentioned DNA’s of negotiation, is “RECIPROCITY.” - this is how people most of the time tends to
behave not only during negotiation but also in their day to day life. In our
life we use one statement very often i.e. “If you want to be respected by
others, first you need to respect them.”
Reciprocity does not
mean teat for tat or eye for eye. It means if you try to wind up other
negotiators, they are likely to do the same to you. So reciprocity is the
central dynamism of negotiation.
This is the human
nature. And I believe this really is central dynamism of negotiation and most
of the time the way people behave with us is reflection of our own action or
behaviour. This is the simple rule in life as well as in business. The fact is
most of us having overlooked the “Reciprocity” factor in our lives tend to
believe whatever the way we behave is correct. But once we start seeing things
through this point of view we come to know that this is how it works in
reality.
Another interesting
term that I found is:
Gleaning Information
While negotiating
most parties only focus on getting the other party to understand their own
concerns and issues without understanding from where the other party is coming
from. But in my opinion successful negotiators are those who have a good
estimate of what the counterparty’s issues & priorities might be.
Gleaning information
means trying to know about another party slowly and building relationship &
trust. The reason why I like this point is no one is going to negotiate with
you until & unless they trust you and believe that you have concerns for
their interest as well.
8) “Start With No” is
the opposite of win-win, and getting to yes. Jim Camp emphasizes disagreement
with win-win which leads to compromise easily and early.
Win-win is hopelessly
misguided as a basis for good negotiating, and such negotiating is the worst
possible way to get the best possible deal.
"Start With No"
is based on the understanding that "no" is a real decision.
Negotiators should be more concerned with making sound decisions rather than
winning.
The best negotiators:
·
are not interested in “yes” they prefer “no”
·
never, ever rush to close, but always let the other side
feel comfortable and secure
·
are never needy; they take advantage of the other party’s
neediness
·
always have a mission and purpose that guides their
decisions
·
don’t send so much as an e-mail without an agenda for
what they want to accomplish
·
know the four “budgets” for themselves and for the other
side: time, energy, money, and emotion
·
never waste time with people who don’t really make the
decision
“Yes” at the beginning of a negotiation is not
good idea as things change over time; “Maybe” make the other side crazy, and
will drag negotiations for a long period, which wastes valuable time and money;
and “No” shows that you are not needy, and tells what aspects and conditions
need to be discussed and resolved.
Therefore, the books gives
an idea that “No” is just the start of the negotiation, not the
end of it. With it, we’ll get everything we want and build solid relationships
with those we negotiate with.
9) The below extract is
useful for dealing with difficult negotiators
This book particularly
focuses on integrative negotiation in which the party tries to create as much
as value as possible for both sides. In problem solving negotiation, the
important aspect is to have mutual understanding. But here comes the trouble
when your counterpart stick in his position and do not want to listen you. Now
the negotiator should get from the confrontation state to co-operation state.
In such a situation you should understand the reason why your counterpart is
not willing to co-operate. You should be able to view the situation
objectively. Here you should know the tactics your opponent is using. Next, you
should go to the balcony meaning instead of reacting to the conflict you should
maintain your mental balance. Third, the dispute should be reframed in terms of
interests rather than positions. For this ‘yes’ foster an atmosphere of
agreement. The goal here is to educate the other party that you are not trying
to win but instead you are seeking a mutual satisfactory agreement. One of the
tactics used is saying “yes” and adding your point by using “and” in the
conversation.’ Yes’ will help in creating the positive climate and ‘And’ will
help to establish space for multiple perspective. Your counterpart feels that
you understand his perspective.
Thus, while negotiating with difficult people diplomacy plays a
vital role. It is important not only to control your emotions but also to
maintain others too. Instead of using your power to bring your opponent to his
knees, create multiple perspective to make him think using his senses.
10) If you want to enjoy true success in your business negotiations then
10) If you want to enjoy true success in your business negotiations then
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Learn the real
needs of the negotiator facing you across the table
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Analyzing those needs, express your needs in return.
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Convert your ‘opponent’ into your ‘partner’ as you work
together on a mutually beneficial solution.
It’s called Win: Win. The best opportunities, the most profitable deals, the richest relationships come about this way. The question is “Why doesn’t it always happen? This book isolates the 16 most common reasons for Failure.:
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6)
Personal issues that threaten win- win negotiation
·
Innocent misunderstanding: Clarify the reasons for your
actions and positions, never take for granted that the other side knows what
you believe or why you are doing something.
·
Perceived dishonesty: Half truths, unspoken truths
and deception can be just as destructive as outright lies. Have the courage to
be honest.
Negligence and irresponsibility: If you
say you will do something, do it! Respect confidence and honor commitments.
Treat the other side with the same respect you expect
11)Further
to get win win outcome:
·
Competition Vs
Co-operation:
What we think about
negotiation is that it’s merely the game to win more than other party
willingness to give. Due to such concept we forget the factor called
satisfaction which can be the essential factor to build trust and long term
relationship. Thus the point competition should be out folded by co-operation
highlighted the fact we should come up front with co-operation to get win-win
situation.
12) . from the
book : Crucial Conversations : is that most of us are letting our
emotions and past experiences and stories drive our actions. This doesn’t leave
a lot of room for rational or strategic thinking at times that matter most. One
must use Crucial Conversations and the examples it provides as a
tool to help them prepare for that next big conversation. Crucial Conversations
are when the Stakes are High, Emotions Run Strong and Opinions Vary.
Seven (7) Step Process to managing such conversations.
The basics are as follows:
1.
Start with the heart- Know your stakes
2.
Learn to look- Do not stray
3.
Make it safe: Creating comfortable environment
4.
Master your story-Appropriate way to respond
5.
State your path-Sharing the fact
6.
Explore other’s path-Look for areas of agreement
7.
Move to action- Coming to consensus.
·
Use of Silence in
negotiation, ,can also be used to deal
with ttough negotiators :
What most of us
neglect in negotiation is the use of silence. Silence is the powerful tool
during negotiation. It will show the others that you will not be bullied into
submission and intend to remain in control of the situation. It will also show
that you have analytical skills, the power of logical reasoning and the ability
to restore order from confusion. Silence
can be golden
12 a) “If you do not know where you’re at, or where you want
to go, you will end up where you did not want to be” comment and elucidate in the context of
negotiation
13) LANCER, L-Linkage : We like to deal with the people we like or people whom we feel
comfortable. A-Alignment : To capture an elephant in the wed of a
spider, you must use the energy of the elephant. N-Needs : In the
quest to satisfy our needs, we are guided by emotion rather than reason. C-Control
: How to listen so people
will talk & talk so people will listen ?, Talking out loud is habit,
listening out loud is an art. E-Evaluation : A persuasive proposal is one
that sets forth your best ideas rather than all of your ideas. R-Reading : To be able to persuasively present your ideas and prevent
resistance, you must read how the other person makes decision.
13a) "Amateurs will listen to someone else
talk only because they know their turn is next. World-class negotiators will
listen to someone else talk to gather “fine print” clues that can be used to
influence and persuade." Explain
13b) If you have options to take risk, then you have negotiating power.
Reason : Obliviously, when you have
options you have ability to drop the negotiation. When you are in such
position, you won't make poor deals. And you go on negotiation until you get
what you want. If you don't have option, then you might give up at some point and
compromise below your expectation.
14) the more time you spend in preparation,,, we can spend less time for reaching settlement in negotiation ; during negotiation each party starts to trade. It is unlikely that an agreement can be reached without some concessions form both parties.-Comment
15"Strong
win-win" he contends:"only works if the other party plays win-win
too" &"Stresses credibility and strength in the deal. Strong
Win-Win will not bully". Win-win is best even for selfish reasons because
Win-win creates extra value and your share of this is greater than if you took
a win-lose approach. The negotiation counts for nothing unless it is implemented
how you would like and, therefore, the other party must be incentivized to
implement it as agreed. However, many people are afraid of win-win because they
feel it leaves them open to be taken advantage of. What is more, it only works
if the other party adopts it too. Therefore, use the Strong Win-Win system,
which addresses these concerns. A high-trust co-operative approach is by the
far the most effective method of getting the best deal you can. However, this
is only true if the trust is well-placed. Your counterparty is likely to follow
your lead in terms of attitude and behavior. Hence build trust by sharing
information and by being trustworthy yourself and Share information, at a rate
that you feel comfortable with, judging by their response in behavior. The
basic principles are It’s not about wining the battle, it’s about winning the
war. (Focus on the bigger picture, get a bigger win.). In human Endeavour, one
plus one equals three. (You have a bull, I have a cow together we have a
business. While negotiating, prepared thoroughly, thinking about side of other,
developed strong plan, high credibility and high rapport, most people will be
your side. We should not rely on hope, cross your fingers that they will like
you do something about it.
Trust engenders trust. If they can trust you, they are
more likely to be trustworthy. Under promise, over deliver.
*Sometimes we need to manage our response and it can be done through
following STOP
S- Step back
T- Think
O-Organise your thoughts
P- Proceed when you know your best action.
All in all key part of the strong win-win philosophy is be strong in the
deal and earn their respect. Never let yourself be bullies.
He
has highlighted seven key elements of effective negotiation and has used
acronym PREBAR which means Plan and prepare, Rehearse, Explore and
explain, Propose, Bargain, Agree, Review. He
suggested that counting cost will help in effective negotiation. COST here means
Commitment: Half
hearted approach can never be effective in negotiation. There must be serious
commitment to achieve result.
Objectives: If you
don’t have clear objective you won’t know where to aim.
Strategy: Once we have
clear objectives for our company, then we must put a strategy in place.
Tactics: Every
negotiation has a tactical element.
What writer mention in this book is that negation is like
chess
He
listed them in terms of dos and don’ts and they are:
·
Do always maintain the initiative
·
Do put things in writing
·
Do conceal our emotions
·
Do ask for discount when paying cash
·
Do use experts
·
Don’t expect to win them all
·
Don’t be afraid to break off negotiation
·
Don’t attack your counterpart, attack the problem
·
Don’t deal in round numbers
·
Don’t indicate movements before you need to
·
Don’t dig your heels in
·
Don’t be afraid to go back and try again
·
Don’t be afraid of risk
·
Don’t assume facts.
Positions Vs Interests
One of the keys to
reaching a win win agreement is to understand the difference between position
and interest. Although the terms are often used interchangeably, they are not
the same.
·
Positions
Positions are the demand and offer
made by the parties in a negotiation.
·
Interests
Interests are what the parties
consider most important to them.
A position is what
you say you want, while an interest is what would actually satisfy your needs.
Believe it or not many people think they know what they want, yet they may not
be aware of what their real interest are.
For demonstration, we
take an iceberg. Here position are the tip of the iceberg that we can see, while
most interest are hidden beneath the surface.
._The book ‘Women don’t ask’
emphasizes on the cost that women bear for not negotiating. The learning from this book focuses on how
women should be more assertive, strong headed and compassionate when it comes
to reaching to a negotiating agreement. They should refrain away from the
discrepancies arrived out of the cultural aspect and should focus more on
deriving the best of what they can achieve and try to reduce the gap which
could occur otherwise for not being able to ask.
- To be the best
negotiators we most learn something in advance is the main conclusion of this
book
WINNING NEGOTIATIONS THAT PRESERVE RELATIONSHIPS
Key to successful negotiation is knowing how to identify a
shared vision and common goals.
Best negotiations are collaborative – they take place
under assumption that parties’ relationships are equally as important as the
details of the deal.
Golden rule of Negotiation:
“People will not
negotiate with you unless they believe you can help them or hurt them”
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